KenyaOnAShoeString

I came across a line recently that felt almost rude in its honesty: “The future doesn’t wait for permission.” My first thought was immediate and unfiltered — ain’t that the truth. We like to imagine the future as something that arrives when we are ready. When we have figured things out. When we feel brave enough, healed enough, secure enough. We negotiate with it silently: just give me a little more time . But the future does not listen. It does not pause for clarity or courtesy. It keeps coming, indifferent to our readiness. We often behave as though life is waiting on us — waiting for the right decision, the right confidence, the right moment. As though there is a holding pattern somewhere, a pause button we can press while we gather ourselves. But days pass. Seasons change. Bodies age. Situations evolve. The future takes shape regardless of our hesitation. This is not always dramatic. Most of the time, it is quiet. It looks like routines continuing while dissatisfaction grows ...

There is a line I heard in a song that has been following me around: “But even lies come dressed in effort sometimes.” At first, I thought it was about other people — the obvious place to start. The relationships that felt convincing because someone tried. The situations that lasted longer than they should have because effort was being expended. But the longer the line stayed with me, the more it turned inward. Because the most exhausting lies are not always the ones we tell others. They are the ones we keep up with ourselves. There are versions of our lives that require constant upkeep. Narratives we repeat so often they begin to sound like truth. Not because they are, but because abandoning them would mean admitting something uncomfortable: that we settled, that we stayed too long, that we chose safety over honesty, or familiarity over alignment. Those admissions cost more than the effort of maintaining the lie. So we try. We show up. We perform consistency. We add small acts o...