When I was a little girl, I had these hand-me-down shoes that I loved. I wore them everywhere. Anywhere, really. I don't think I cared whether they were appropriate for where I was going. If those were the shoes I wanted to wear, then those were the shoes I was wearing. And when they became too small, I still didn't want to let them go. I would squeeze my feet into them and somehow convince myself that they still fit. I imagine an adult looking at me and thinking, Child, these shoes are clearly too small. Please take them off. But I loved them. And I think about those shoes sometimes when I hear us talk about things like seasons, letting go, releasing, creating room, moving on. Usually, when we talk about letting go, there is something wrong with the thing we're letting go of. It has become toxic. It doesn't serve us anymore. It is holding us back. We have outgrown it. We need to make room for something better. And yes, sometimes that is exactly what letting go looks li...
Let’s say it happens. You — or your partner, or friend — connect with someone else. Deeply. Emotionally. Maybe even sexually. Does that automatically mean something is broken? That love has ended? That someone was fake or unfaithful or lost? Not necessarily. Connection does not cancel connection. This isn’t electricity — it’s human energy. And human energy multiplies , not divides. The Rush to Abandon One for the Other Here’s what often happens: Someone feels seen in a new way. Their soul lights up in this fresh connection. They suddenly feel alive , new , desired , understood . And they take that feeling to mean: “This is real. That other relationship must be dead.” But this is a trap. What they’re often experiencing isn’t truer love — it’s novelty , reflection , an uncovered aspect of self that the new person evokes. And instead of integrating that part into their life and growing , they throw the old thing away to chase the new mirror. The tragedy? It...