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What Are We Saving Our Lives For?

I am always late for work. There. I've said it. And the frustrating thing is that my lateness isn't caused by traffic or some unpredictable morning disaster. Most of the time, it is entirely my own doing. I wake up and make my coffee. Then I get back into bed, which is right by the window, cross my feet, face the window and slowly sip my coffee. And when I say slowly, I mean slowly. I look at the trees. I watch the birds. I feel the morning sun on my skin. Sometimes I just sit there with my thoughts. I really love these mornings. I've also noticed something else. When I give myself enough time in the morning, my body usually does what it needs to do. A slow morning often leads to a bowel movement, which, as far as I'm concerned, is one of the must-haves of starting my day. And so I find myself wishing for more time. More time to sit. More time to drink my coffee. More time to maybe get outside and do some yoga or mat Pilates on the grass while the sun is stil...
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Navigating Public Transport in Your 30s, 40s, and 50s: The Emotional and Social Reality

In Kenya, car ownership is often seen as a key milestone of success. When your peers, friends, and family members are all driving while you continue using matatus, buses, or boda bodas, it can bring about feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or even embarrassment. Public transport is undeniably cheaper, but it comes with its own stressors—unpredictable schedules, overcrowding, and safety concerns. How does one navigate this choice in their 30s, 40s, and 50s without feeling left behind? The Financial Reality vs. Social Pressure Choosing public transport over a car is often a financially wise decision, especially when considering the high costs of car ownership. However, there is an emotional and social weight that comes with it: Status and Perception: In many circles, having a car is equated with financial stability and progress. Convenience vs. Cost: Matatus can be unreliable, while a personal car offers flexibility and comfort. Peer Pressure: When friends organize trips or events, ...
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Know Thyself: The Quiet Power of Naming Your Nature

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” — Carl Jung We live in a culture that equates good intentions with goodness, and ambition with ability. But very few people in Kenya—or anywhere—truly know what they are made of. We can name our qualifications and our dreams. But ask someone their vices or virtues, and they hesitate. Worse, they lie. The Danger of Self-Unawareness In Kenya today, many of us are wandering through life making choices—big, small, and irreversible—without truly understanding who we are. We end up in jobs we despise, relationships we shouldn’t be in, or positions of influence we aren’t emotionally or ethically equipped for. And at the root of this dysfunction is a simple truth: we don’t know ourselves. This is not a spiritual or abstract dilemma. It’s a deeply practical one. To know oneself is to understand your vices, your virtues, your weaknesses, and your strengths—not in a vague sense, but in detail. Let’s ge...
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