Our attention is finite, yet we spend it everywhere but where it matters. This is not a moral failure. It is a structural one. Attention economics is the idea that in a world overflowing with information, human attention becomes the scarce resource. Whoever captures it, holds power. Over time, this has reshaped not just markets, but inner lives. What we notice. What we ignore. What we can tolerate. What we can no longer sit with. For a long time, people warned that television would rot our brains. In hindsight, television looks almost generous. A show required you to stay for forty minutes. A film asked for two hours. A detective story invited you to notice details, to remember names, to hold multiple threads in your mind at once. You watched. You followed. You waited. Listening to music meant staying long enough to learn lyrics. Reading meant sitting with confusion until meaning arrived. Writing a poem meant wrestling with language, not skimming it. Even boredom had a purpose—it ...
In a society obsessed with appearances, many people end up with the wrong partners just to seem progressive, open-minded, or in love. We want to be seen as evolved enough to date outside our tribe, class, or beliefs—but we rarely stop to ask: are we truly compatible, or are we trying to prove a point? Old money families—across the world and in Kenya—have long followed a different script. Their rules might seem elitist on the surface, but beneath the surface is a web of practical, time-tested lessons about compatibility, stability, and legacy. It’s time to ask: what do they know that the rest of us ignore? Part I: The Stages of Getting to Know Someone Let’s be honest: most relationships today skip critical steps. Here’s how it should look: Observation Stage (No expectations) This is where you allow yourself to quietly watch without engaging emotionally. You learn a lot by seeing how someone treats waitstaff, how they talk about people who wronged them, or how they manage stress. In Keny...