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Financially Impressive: The Invisible Emotional Contracts Between Kenyan Parents and Their Children

If a child grows up to be kind, healthy, responsible, self-sufficient, and decent—but not wealthy—has the sacrifice failed? Most people would instinctively say no. Yet many families behave as though the answer is yes. Not openly, of course. No parent sits their child down and says, "I didn't raise you to be happy. I raised you to be rich." But expectations have a way of revealing themselves. In comparisons with more successful relatives. In questions about promotions, land, and home ownership. In the disappointment that hangs in the air when a child is doing well enough to survive but not well enough to transform the family's fortunes. And perhaps nowhere is this tension more visible than in Kenya, where sacrifice is often treated as the highest form of love. Parents sacrifice for their children. Older siblings sacrifice for younger siblings. Entire generations sacrifice in the hope that the next one will live better. But what happens when sacrifice quietly becomes an...

It Matters How This Ends: Living with the Finish in Mind

If there’s one guarantee in life, it’s that it will end. Yet, for most of us, that truth is easy to ignore. We get caught up in the middle part—the grind, the responsibilities, the pursuit of success—and forget that, one day, it will all come to a close. Think about the beginning of life. When expectant parents are preparing for a child, they do everything possible to create the perfect start—buying clothes, setting up a home, planning for education, ensuring the child enters the world in the best way possible. They do this because they understand that how it begins shapes the rest of the child’s life . In the same way, how it all ends shapes what comes after for those left behind —our children, our loved ones, our community. Just as a strong start gives a child the best chance at life, a thoughtful, intentional ending leaves behind peace, dignity, and a meaningful legacy. It matters how this ends—not just life itself, but every chapter, every relationship, every season. Because how we...

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