Don't sell people an incomplete map and then blame them for getting lost. I've been sitting with that thought for weeks because the more I look around, the more I realize that many of the frustrations we carry as a society are not simply about unemployment, corruption, inequality or even money. They are about the stories we tell one another. From the time we are children, we are handed maps for how life is supposed to work. Study hard and life will work out. Get a degree and you'll find a good job. Work hard and success will follow. Save consistently and you'll become financially secure. Find your passion and the money will come. Marry the right person and everything else will fall into place. Believe in yourself. Think positively. Stay disciplined. None of these statements is entirely false. But none of them is entirely true either. The problem is rarely what they say. The problem is what they leave unsaid. Because what is omitted from a story is often just as powerful...
In Kenya, car ownership is often seen as a key milestone of success. When your peers, friends, and family members are all driving while you continue using matatus, buses, or boda bodas, it can bring about feelings of inadequacy, frustration, or even embarrassment. Public transport is undeniably cheaper, but it comes with its own stressors—unpredictable schedules, overcrowding, and safety concerns. How does one navigate this choice in their 30s, 40s, and 50s without feeling left behind? The Financial Reality vs. Social Pressure Choosing public transport over a car is often a financially wise decision, especially when considering the high costs of car ownership. However, there is an emotional and social weight that comes with it: Status and Perception: In many circles, having a car is equated with financial stability and progress. Convenience vs. Cost: Matatus can be unreliable, while a personal car offers flexibility and comfort. Peer Pressure: When friends organize trips or events, ...