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Together but Alone: How Commitment Becomes Emotional Silence

The Love Feels Alive… Until It’s “Secured” It usually starts with excitement. Endless late-night conversations. Long walks. Flirting glances. Curiosity. Depth. Desire. And then — something shifts. Maybe you move in together. Or get married. Or call it “serious.” Suddenly the rhythm changes. The conversations shrink. The silences stretch longer. The daily interactions are about bills, chores, or kids. The laughter becomes rare, the touch becomes routine — or stops. And you find yourselves sitting next to each other, scrolling on separate screens, not out of conflict — but out of quiet disconnection . What Went Wrong? The relationship didn’t break. It just got absorbed into a faulty cultural script — one that tells us: The goal of dating is to get into a relationship . The goal of a relationship is to get married or “settled” . After that, you’ve arrived . The problem? That’s when most people stop trying. Because our society tells us the relationship...