People think they marry for love. But more often than not, they marry to be safe, to be seen, or to be saved. In Kenya , marriage and children are presented as the natural checkpoints of life. You grow up, finish school, get a job, marry, and have children. This sequence is rarely questioned, because to question it feels like rebellion against culture, religion, and even family. Yet if we strip away the social scripts , the reality is unsettling: very few Kenyans choose marriage or children freely. Marriage as Escape Look closely at the stories around you. Many people marry to escape poverty . For women, this often means marrying a man who can provide more stability than their families could. For men, it may mean marrying into opportunity, or at least a semblance of respectability. The marriage certificate becomes a survival tool — less about romance, more about relief. Others marry to escape abuse . A young woman grows up in a home where beatings and insults are daily bread, and ...
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