What do you do when life feels like one long, endless hustle—and you look around and it seems like everyone else is thriving?

There’s a strange ache that creeps in when you’re doing your best, struggling to make ends meet, yet everywhere you look, people are going on weekend getaways, attending international concerts, upgrading their cars, and living what appears to be their best life.

You’re not jealous. You’re just tired.
You’re not bitter. You’re just exhausted from constantly feeling like you’re playing catch-up.
You’re not ungrateful. You’re just wondering when your turn will come—and if it ever will.

We’re in a season where “everyone is struggling” is the common language, yet the matatus are still full, the roads are still jammed with cars, and even midweek concerts are packed. The malls aren’t empty, and data bundles are still being bought. So what gives?

The truth is, Kenya is a country of multiple realities.

Some people have always had money. Some people finally got lucky. Some people are in debt. Some people are silently drowning. Some people genuinely don’t have responsibilities right now and can enjoy life freely. Others are sacrificing in ways you may never see just to put on a brave face.

And then there are people like you—doing your best. Living within your means. Carrying quiet responsibilities. Cutting back. Saving slowly. Dreaming quietly.

To the One Who Feels Left Behind

You’re not lazy. You’re not cursed. You’re not forgotten. You are simply walking a different path—one that requires more patience, more discipline, and more self-awareness.

And no, this is not one of those “you’ll make it one day” articles.

This is a gentle reminder that:

Life isn’t a race.
Progress can be quiet.
Social media isn’t real life.
And your value is not defined by what you can or can’t afford.

Yes, it’s frustrating.
Yes, sometimes you’ll want to throw your budgeting book out the window.
Yes, it stings when you see others living a life you’ve worked hard for but still can’t touch.

But don’t lose yourself trying to keep up with stories you don’t know the full truth about.

How to Navigate This Season Without Losing Yourself

1. Practice Micro-Joy.
You may not be able to fly out for a concert, but you can plan a solo coffee date, walk in Karura, or read a book in silence. Joy doesn’t always come in big, loud packages.

2. Choose Presence Over Performance.
You don’t need to prove anything to anyone. You are enough, even in your in-between season.

3. Stay Financially Real.
It's okay to sit some things out. You don't need to attend every event, buy every outfit, or say yes to every plan. Let your finances align with your reality, not your fears or FOMO.

4. Avoid Comparison Triggers.
Take breaks from content that makes you feel “less than.” Curate your digital space the same way you would your home—make it somewhere you feel safe and seen.

5. Build a Ritual of Gratitude.
Before the day ends, find one thing—no matter how small—that made you feel human and alive. It’s the small joys that carry us.

In the End

It’s easy to feel left behind. But you are still becoming.

You’re still allowed to dream, even if you’re not living that dream yet.
You’re still allowed to smile, even if there’s sadness in your heart.
You’re still allowed to rest, even if your problems haven’t been solved.

Your story is not boring. It’s just not loud.
But it’s yours—and it’s still unfolding.

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