Emotional labor is that extra effort you put into controlling your emotions, managing other people’s feelings, and keeping the peace at work—even when you’re burning inside. It’s the customer care rep smiling through insults, the waitress pretending not to hear inappropriate comments, the bank teller calming an irate client, and the teacher playing therapist to students while being underpaid. It’s not in the job description, but somehow, you’re expected to deliver it—free of charge.
And the worst part? If you don’t, you’re suddenly “unprofessional,” “not a team player,” or “lacking customer service skills.”
Where It’s Most Common (And Who Suffers the Most)
1. Customer Service & Hospitality
If you’ve worked in customer service, you already know the deal. You’ll be insulted, belittled, and made to feel like a punching bag for problems you didn’t cause. But instead of defending yourself, you’re expected to apologize, smile, and say, “I completely understand your frustration, sir.”
Who suffers?
Call center agents dealing with weka kwa hold customers who shout instead of explaining their issue.
Hotel staff putting up with rude guests who assume “customer is king” means treating workers like peasants.
Supermarket cashiers dealing with angry Nairobians who blame them for price increases.
Why it’s harmful: Because it turns humans into emotional shock absorbers, leading to stress, burnout, and even depression.
2. Education: Teachers Turned Counselors
Teachers in Kenya don’t just teach; they’re therapists, social workers, and second parents. They manage students' emotions, listen to personal problems, and handle the frustration of parents who offload their responsibilities onto the school system.
Who suffers?
Nursery school teachers dealing with toddlers’ tantrums and entitled parents who expect miracles.
High school teachers playing mediator when Form 3 boys fight over a girlfriend.
University lecturers giving life advice to students who are lost, broke, and overwhelmed.
Why it’s harmful: Because emotional labor is unpaid, yet it takes a heavy mental toll. A teacher’s job shouldn’t include absorbing every student’s emotional baggage without support.
3. Healthcare Workers: The Emotional Dumping Ground
Doctors, nurses, and clinical officers in Kenya don’t just treat illnesses; they absorb fear, grief, and frustration. Patients lash out at them when medicine runs out, when NHIF fails, or when a loved one doesn’t make it.
Who suffers?
Nurses comforting grieving families while running on empty themselves.
Doctors forced to “be kind” even when patients insult them over long wait times.
Pharmacists dealing with customers who think Panadol can cure everything.
Why it’s harmful: Because emotional exhaustion leads to mistakes, and in healthcare, mistakes can be fatal.
4. Domestic Workers: The Unseen Therapists
If you have a house help, she’s probably your family’s unofficial therapist. She listens to your problems, comforts your kids, and keeps your household emotionally stable. But how many people return that kindness?
Who suffers?
Nannies comforting kids while getting yelled at by their employers.
House helps absorbing marital tensions in homes where the couple barely speaks.
Gardeners listening to family drama while trimming the hedge.
Why it’s harmful: Because they’re not just underpaid, they’re emotionally overworked, yet no one considers their wellbeing.
5. Corporate Kenya: The “Work Family” Scam
Your boss wants you to be “part of the family,” but only when it benefits them. You’re expected to stay late, do emotional gymnastics to keep your boss happy, and pretend to be okay even when you’re drowning in stress.
Who suffers?
Employees forced to laugh at the boss’s bad jokes to keep their jobs.
Women who have to “soften their tone” or be labeled aggressive.
Junior staff absorbing their managers’ stress while getting zero credit for their work.
Why it’s harmful: Because “work family” is a scam. It demands loyalty but offers none in return.
Employers, Stop Demanding Emotional Labor for Free
Kenyan employers, listen up: It’s not your employees’ job to be your unpaid therapists. If you want a positive work culture, PAY FOR IT. Offer mental health support, set realistic expectations, and stop treating kindness as a given. Emotional labor is still labor.
Employees, Stop Giving It Away Like Free Samples
If you’re working a job where emotional labor is expected but never acknowledged, set boundaries. You’re not a robot. You don’t have to absorb insults, stay late for unpaid pep talks, or pretend to be okay when you’re not. Your peace of mind is more valuable than fake professionalism.
Customers, Stop Mistaking Service for Servitude
Just because someone serves you doesn’t mean they’re beneath you.
If you’ve had a bad day, don’t take it out on a stranger.
Tip. Say thank you. Be human.
The Takeaway: Emotional Labor is Real Labor
If a job requires emotional energy, it should be acknowledged, respected, and compensated. It’s time we stop treating kindness as an unpaid skill and start valuing the people who hold society together—emotionally and otherwise.
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